Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco's bumpy road to "I do"

Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco are heading for the altar this September, with a two-day wedding planned in the quiet, coastal town of Montecito, California. But behind the scenes, things have reportedly been a little more complicated. According to sources who spoke to the Daily Mail, there’s been some growing tension over how the planning is being handled, or more accurately, who is handling it.

Benny, ever the laid-back partner, has apparently told friends that this is “her wedding first, and their wedding second.” He’s thrilled to be marrying Selena but he’s also made it clear that he wants her to make most of the decisions. On paper, that sounds thoughtful, even romantic. In practice, it’s been a bit frustrating.
Selena is said to be feeling the pressure of doing most of the heavy lifting. And while she’s no stranger to high-stakes projects, wedding planning hits differently. Friends close to the couple say both Selena and Benny have a habit of procrastinating, which hasn’t helped the situation. And while Benny’s hands-off approach may come from a place of trust, people in their circle have gently called him “a bit lazy” when it comes to the details.

It’s one thing to say, “whatever you want, babe,” and another to actually step in when there are decisions about seating charts, lighting, or which three kinds of cake to sample on a Tuesday afternoon.

That said, the couple seems to have weathered the planning storm. Things are much calmer now. Most of the vendors are booked, payments are settled, and the vision is finally coming together. A source close to the pair says the stress has mostly passed, and the vibe between them is now “smooth sailing.”

One big reason for the slow start has been their work schedules. Selena has been filming her hit series Only Murders in the Building, while Benny has been busy in the studio. The wedding wasn’t their only focus, which is often the case for couples balancing engagement with other life responsibilities.

Still, they’ve managed to pull together what promises to be a beautiful celebration. Invites are out, the guest list includes close friends and family, and several of Selena’s castmates as well. Montecito offers the kind of privacy and natural charm that feels just right for two people trying to keep things special, but grounded.

They may have hit a few bumps getting here, but Gomez and Blanco seem more in sync now than ever. At the end of the day, the flowers, the food, the timeline, is all secondary. What matters is that they’ll walk away from it as husband and wife. And that, apparently, is the part they’re most excited about.